The World made you a Warrior to Survive.

Now, you’re Ready to Remember Who you Are.

You’ve been taught that softness is a sign of weakness. That’s why you never learned how to feel your emotions, or you’re not even sure you feel anything at all… If you get angry or sad, it takes a while to fully comprehend why. This results in difficult communication if your surroundings try to understand, because you have a hard time explaining.

You learned to deal with your emotions alone… and you tell yourself you have to ‘man up’ and keep going. If you cry, you give some slaps on your cheeks, take a good look in the mirror and hype yourself back up. Because breaking is ‘failure’ and not showing up is ‘unprofessiona’l or ‘not done’.

You have a hard time to relax. Because you are used to situations that felt like chaos and conflict, you are ‘on’ all the time. You keep on moving, cleaning, scrolling, working so you don’t have to be alone and do nothing. Being by yourself makes you nervous so you keep on numbing yourself to not having to confront your own thoughts. And when you rest, you feel guilty of not being productive.

You process everything intellectually - instead of through the body. You are disconnected from the body, therefore you bypass it altogether in every decision & every experience. You accomplished a raise at your job? Perfect! Your mind tells you you’re doing a great job and need to do more & even better… but your body? Is exhausted, neglected and screaming for attention - which you don’t even notice. And the worst part? You still don’t feel like you’re enough..

You even sabotage the joy of your own wins as a buffer to share something the other person does not want to hear. You are willing to sacrifice all your pleasure just for the sake of maintaining the balance and keeping peace. You are used to conflict anyways, so to sacrifice a day of celebration is just another familiar day to you.

During sex you are thinking of your to do list instead of the pleasure your partner is trying hard to give you, but you are zoned out, overanalysing every conversation in your day and that you can’t forget to make a sandwich for work tomorrow - and then you complain why your partners can’t make you orgasm - but you never gave him a chance.

You learned how to walk on eggshells because the environment you grew up in was unpredictable. Therefore you try to please others all the time and give all of you to make others happy. You even try to think about what they need already before they asked you anything, because you try to regulate their mood and emotions to keep the situation in balance.

And when you can’t please others, you feel like a failure. Because you tie your worth to how much you do, what you accomplish, being a good girl, getting praised, etc.

to prove them that you’re worthy, because you want to have your life picture perfect and meet all the expectations… Even if it comes at the cost of your own happiness, health and valuable time.

Therefore every moment of joy and every moment of pain is a moment of meh… Not really good and not really bad. Because you don’t allow yourself to feel more because that would mean breaking through the big walls that you’ve built around feeling deeply… because this is what kept you safe as a child.

You thrive at your job, you are the assertive one, sometimes bossing people around… And you see your body as a pain because it gets tired, skin problems, sleepless nights - which does not allow you to keep going at your high pace.

Deep down you long to be more soft, to experience a deeper intimacy with your partner, to give people hugs, to allow your big walls to crack open. But you are so afraid of the hurt you think you then will experience, for the judgment you will face when you speak with compassion, for the cost you think you’ll pay when you deeply nurture, to open up more emotionally about your wants and needs towards your partner.

You try and give and give more… But your energy is just running low, your lust for life is at zero and you even tend to numb yourself with substances ‘like your daily wine to process the day’ - which often becomes a bottle.

You don’t even know what you want anymore. You’re done, you’re empty.

And society mirrors back your feelings of misalignment through burnout, getting fired, skin problems, sleeping problems, ending relationships… you start to investigate all the things that are wrong with you that you can’t seem to fit in like everyone else and be happy…

As you did for your whole life, you try to understand mentally what the problem is in your surroundings and how you can give more to be accepted.

While it’s always been you who was the one trying to push yourself into places and doors that were never meant for you to begin with.

The real answer doesn’t lay around you, it lies within you. It was always about you.

But now you are done with performing for approval.
You want to make choices from your truth, not from fear, habit, or trauma.

“You don’t have to be strong right now.”

1. “You get to feel it all — and still be whole.”

2. “You don’t have to prove anything. You already belong.”

3. “You’re not too much. You’re allowed to take up space.”

4. “There’s nothing wrong with you. You’re just tired of surviving.”

You’ve spent years holding it all together.
The calm voice in chaos.
The one who keeps moving forward, even with a storm inside.
You’ve learned how to be strong — not because it came naturally, but because you had no other choice.

The world taught you early:
Softness isn’t safe.
Vulnerability is weakness.
If you don’t protect yourself, no one else will.

So you built your armour.
You stopped crying. You stopped asking. You stopped needing.
You became the warrior — for your family, your children, your business, your survival. And you’ve done it brilliantly.

But now… something in you aches.
Not for more strength — you already know how to fight.
But for wholeness. For softness. For breath.

For a remembrance of the sovereign & untamed woman you essentially are.